Relationships:
Family, Couples, Friendships, Self
Relationships:
Couples, Family, Workplace, Friends and Self
See more on the Workplace, Friends and Self relationships resources section
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See more on Attunement in the General Resources section
Selections:
Videos
2.5-min video of the Gottman's "The Four Horsemen" (that lead to the end of a relationship)
Esther Perel's TED Talks. The secret to desire in a long-term relationship (2013).
What to Expect From Couples Therapy. Lifehacker.com. (June 10, 2013).
When to Seek Help: 6 Signs a Relationship Is Unhealthy. Psychology Today. (June 1, 2022).
The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. From the Gottman Institute. * See above for a 2-min video describing The 4 Horsemen. *
See more on the Career & Workplace resources section
Finally set (and stick to) healthy work boundaries on Sanvello's Blog (March 31, 2022).
Why Is It So Hard for Men to Make Close Friends? American men are stuck in a “friendship recession.” Here’s how to climb out. By Catherine Pearson, The New York Times (Nov. 28, 2022).
Coping with the loss of a friendship: How these connections evolve in adulthood and a counselor’s advice on allowing yourself to grieve. By Jason Crosby on Thriveworks, (Aug. 18, 2021).
How Failed Friendships Impact Your Health by Albert Whitwood (Jan. 18, 2023). Summarizes articles and research from The Mayo Clinic, Psychology Today, NAMI, TIME discussing the physical and mental health implications friendship loss can have, including depression, isolation, substance abuse, sleep disturbance, heart issues, lowered self-esteem, weakened immune system, weight and cognitive changes.
Podcasts
The Modern Love Podcast from The New York Times. --> It has been turned into a book and TV series!
Hidden Brain with Shankar Vedantam. Shankar Vedantam uses science and storytelling to reveal the unconscious patterns that drive human behavior, shape our choices and direct our relationships.
Relationships 2.0: When Did Marriage Become So Hard? (Nov. 21, 2022).
NPR's Invisibilia - "Unseeable forces control human behavior and shape our ideas, beliefs, and assumptions. Invisibilia—Latin for invisible things—fuses narrative storytelling with science that will make you see your own life differently."
Therapy, with Friends with Esther Perel (Nov. 4, 2021). - Would you ever consider going to therapy with a friend? Two best friends who call themselves brothers were drifting apart, so they asked psychotherapist Esther Perel to help — and we listened in. This episode was recorded in collaboration with Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel and a companion episode can be heard on her podcast. - Spotify | Apple | WNYC
Esther Perel (a top thought leader on relationships) conducts one-time therapy sessions with couples on Where Should We Begin? (Apple | Spotify), and with coworkers and cofounders at companies on How's Work? ( Spotify | Apple).
The Mel Robbins Podcast episode "How to Speak Up for Yourself: Simple Strategies for Being Heard." On how to set boundaries in friendships, handle criticism, starting hard conversations and dealing with "difficult people."
Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch - Apple
A Slight Change of Plans by Maya Shankar.
Cognitive Scientist discusses human behavior, relationships, mental health and how science informs social interactions, decision making and emotions. - Apple | Spotify
The Science of Making (and Keeping) Friends. (Apr. 10, 2023). Apple | Spotify
Books
Levine, A. & Heller, R. (2012). Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep Love (January 5, 2012) - Amazon
Gottman, J. & Silver, N. (2015). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. - Amazon link
Johnson, S. (2008). Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. - Amazon Link
Nedra Glover Tawwab:
Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A guide to reclaiming yourself (March 16, 2021), TarcherPerigee. Amazon | Author's Instagram
Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships (Feb. 28, 2023), TarcherPerigee.
5 Key Ideas (Audio by author) | Amazon Link | Key Tips in The New York Times (March 8, 2023).
Behrendt, G. & Ruotola-Behrendt, A. (2005). It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy. - Amazon
Gottlieb, Lori. (2010). Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. - Amazon
The ADHD Effect on Marriage (2010). by Melissa Orlov. ADHDMarriage.com
Open Relationships
Polyamory UK - UK-based website with resources, articles, books, etc.
MultiAmory - Website with a podcast, book, coaching, workbook, and more.
Podcasts:
Polyamory Weekly - Spotify | Apple
MultiAmory (see above for general website & other resources) - episode on "Polyamory: The Most Common Questions."
General
TwoOfUs.org
National Healthy Marriage Resource Center - link
The Marriage Minute is an email newsletter from The Gottman Institute.
#FOMO: How Social Media Affects our Social Lives and Self-Images from One Mind PsyberGuide's blog.
Self-Quizzes
Mojo Upgrade – Interactive Sex Questionnaire for Couples