ADHD in Couples

Articles

• A.D.H.D. Can Strain Relationships. Here’s How Couples Cope: The symptoms of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder can push couples to their breaking point, but there is hope for those willing to seek help. The New York Times (Feb. 18, 2022). 

• 9 Ways ADHD May Strain Relationships, by Melissa Orlov. ADDitude Magazine (May 21, 2024).

• ADHD and Relationships: The Other Partner. What about the Partner Who Doesn’t Have ADHD? Psychology Today (July 30, 2014). 

• How does ADHD affect relationships and marriage? from ADHDaware  

General:

• What to Expect From Couples Therapy. Lifehacker.com. (June 10, 2013).  

• The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. From the Gottman Institute. * See below for a 2-min video on The 4 Horsemen. * 

Videos

• Dr. Tracey Marks, "ADHD And Relationship Issues – 11 Ways to Fix Them."   About: Discusses couples, parents and families. 

• Does ADHD affect your sex life?  About: Ari Tuckman answers top questions.

• "In Conversation with Melissa Orlov on "The ADHD Effect on Marriage."  Note: this is a 1.5 hr presentation, not advised for the ADHD partner unless ready to hyperfocus or break it up into multiple sessions! 

• 2.5-min video of The Gottmans' "The Four Horsemen" (that lead to the end of a relationship). Note: General video on four communication patterns that can lead to the downfall of all relationships, with or without ADHD: 

Recommended Books

• The ADHD Effect on Marriage (2010). by Melissa Orlov. ADHDMarriage.com 

• ADHD & Us: A Couple's Guide to Loving and Living With Adult ADHD (2020) by Anita Robertson, LCSW. - Amazon 

• ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship (2019) by Ari Tuckman, PsyD. Website| Amazon