Relationships:
Family, Couples, Friendships, Self
Relationships: Couples & Family
See more in the Parenting & Co-parenting resources section
See more on Attunement in the General Resources section
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See more on the Workplace, Friends and Self resources section
TwoOfUs.org
National Healthy Marriage Resource Center - link
The Marriage Minute is an email newsletter from The Gottman Institute.
#FOMO: How Social Media Affects our Social Lives and Self-Images from One Mind PsyberGuide's blog.
Self-Quizzes
Mojo Upgrade – Interactive Sex Questionnaire for Couples
Articles
What to Expect From Couples Therapy. Lifehacker.com. (June 10, 2013).
When to Seek Help: 6 Signs a Relationship Is Unhealthy. Psychology Today. (June 1, 2022).
The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. From the Gottman Institute. * See below for a 2-min video on The 4 Horsemen. *
4 Anxious Attachment Strategies That Sabotage Intimate Relationships on KyleBenson.net.
Why Some of Us Overlook Red Flags in Toxic Relationships. Psychology Today (Jan. 2, 2023).
Attunement
See more on Attunement in the General Resources section
Finding Emotional Connection/Attunement from All Emotional Matters.
How Emotional Attunement Can Transform Your Relationships from EmotionalEnhancement (Oct. 14, 2018).
Intimacy & Sexuality
When I Get That Boring Feeling: Sex as Escape from Boredom by Andrew Moynihan in Inquisitive Mind (Feb. 2021).
3 Reasons Stress is Affecting Your Sex Drive and What to Do About It from The Gottman Institute.
Podcasts
The Modern Love Podcast from The New York Times. --> It has been turned into a book and TV series!
Hidden Brain with Shankar Vedantam. Shankar Vedantam uses science and storytelling to reveal the unconscious patterns that drive human behavior, shape our choices and direct our relationships.
Relationships 2.0: When Did Marriage Become So Hard? (Nov. 21, 2022).
No one will deny that marriage is hard. In fact, there's evidence it's getting even harder. This week on the show, we revisit a favorite episode from 2018 about the history of marriage and how it has evolved over time. We'll talk with historian Stephanie Coontz and psychologist Eli Finkel, and explore ways we can improve our love lives — including by asking less of our partners.
Esther Perel (a top thought leader on relationships) counsels real couples on Where Should We Begin? - Apple | Spotify . Episode: I Don't Mean To Be Mean, But... (Dec. 23, 2021) - Apple
The Dr. Psych Mom Show - Spotify | Apple Podcast about marriage, sex, relationships, juggling it all.
Videos
2.5-min video of the Gottmans' "The Four Horsemen" (that lead to the end of a relationship)
Esther Perel's TED Talks:
In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire? With wit and eloquence, Perel lets us in on the mystery of erotic intelligence.
Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships.
The Growth Marriage. "An Introduction To Anxious Attachment With Kyle Benson" of the Gottman Love Lab.
Recommended Books
Levine, A. & Heller, R. (2012). Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep Love (January 5, 2012) - Amazon
Gottman, J. & Silver, N. (2015). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. - Amazon link
Johnson, S. (2008). Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. - Amazon Link
Nedra Glover Tawwab:
Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A guide to reclaiming yourself (March 16, 2021), TarcherPerigee. - Amazon | Author's Instagram
Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships (Feb. 28, 2023), TarcherPerigee.
5 Key Ideas (Audio by author) | Amazon Link | Key Tips in The New York Times (March 8, 2023).
Kerner, I. (2004). She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. - Amazon Link
Behrendt, G. & Ruotola-Behrendt, A. (2005). It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy. - Amazon
Gottlieb, Lori. (2010). Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. - Amazon
Nagoski, E. (2015). Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life. - Amazon
The ADHD Effect on Marriage (2010). by Melissa Orlov. ADHDMarriage.com
Open Relationships
Polyamory UK - UK-based website with resources, articles, books, etc.
MultiAmory - Website with a podcast, book, coaching, workbook, and more.
Podcasts:
Polyamory Weekly - Spotify | Apple
MultiAmory (see above for general website & other resources) - episode on "Polyamory: The Most Common Questions."