Relationships:

Selections:

• Why Attunement Is Essential In Relationships & How To Practice It. Mind Body Green Relationships. (June 21, 2021). 

• How to Set Boundaries with Yourself. Psychology Today (Jan. 1, 2023).  

Videos

• 2.5-min video of the Gottman's "The Four Horsemen" (that lead to the end of a relationship)

• Esther Perel's TED Talks. The secret to desire in a long-term relationship (2013). 

• "The Power of Vulnerability" - TED talk by Brene Brown (2010).  

• "Listening to Shame," TED talk by Brene Brown (2012).  

Selections from Couples & Family 

• What to Expect From Couples Therapy. Lifehacker.com. (June 10, 2013).  

• When to Seek Help: 6 Signs a Relationship Is Unhealthy. Psychology Today. (June 1, 2022).   

• The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. From the Gottman Institute. * See above for a 2-min video describing The 4 Horsemen. *

• A.D.H.D. Can Strain Relationships. Here’s How Couples Cope: The symptoms of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder can push couples to their breaking point, but there is hope for those willing to seek help. The New York Times (Feb. 18, 2022).   

• Sexuality and Aging (Mount Sinai School of Medicine´s Geriatrics, Palliative Care & Interprofessional Teamwork Curriculum).  

• One Phrase that Kills Women’s Sexual Desire (and Other Mistakes Couples Make that Lead to Little or No Sex). The Huffington Post (Nov. 2017).  

Selections from Workplace, Friends, Self & Boundaries

See more on the Career & Workplace resources section

• Finally set (and stick to) healthy work boundaries on Sanvello's Blog (March 31, 2022).  

• Friendship Therapy: A professional can help friends improve and maintain their bond. Thriveworks by Wister Murray (Sept. 2, 2021). 

• Why Is It So Hard for Men to Make Close Friends? American men are stuck in a “friendship recession.” Here’s how to climb out. By Catherine Pearson, The New York Times (Nov. 28, 2022). 

• Coping with the loss of a friendship: How these connections evolve in adulthood and a counselor’s advice on allowing yourself to grieve. By Jason Crosby on Thriveworks, (Aug. 18, 2021).  

• How Failed Friendships Impact Your Health by Albert Whitwood (Jan. 18, 2023). Summarizes articles and research from The Mayo Clinic, Psychology Today, NAMI, TIME discussing the physical and mental health implications friendship loss can have, including depression, isolation, substance abuse, sleep disturbance, heart issues, lowered self-esteem, weakened immune system, weight and cognitive changes.   

Podcasts

• The Modern Love Podcast from The New York Times. --> It has been turned into a book and TV series! 

• Hidden Brain with Shankar Vedantam. Shankar Vedantam uses science and storytelling to reveal the unconscious patterns that drive human behavior, shape our choices and direct our relationships.  

Relationships 2.0: When Did Marriage Become So Hard? (Nov. 21, 2022).  

• NPR's Invisibilia - "Unseeable forces control human behavior and shape our ideas, beliefs, and assumptions. Invisibilia—Latin for invisible things—fuses narrative storytelling with science that will make you see your own life differently."  

Therapy, with Friends with Esther Perel (Nov. 4, 2021). - Would you ever consider going to therapy with a friend? Two best friends who call themselves brothers were drifting apart, so they asked psychotherapist Esther Perel to help — and we listened in. This episode was recorded in collaboration with Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel and a companion episode can be heard on her podcast. - Spotify | Apple | WNYC

• Esther Perel (a top thought leader on relationships) conducts one-time therapy sessions with couples on Where Should We Begin? (Apple | Spotify), and with coworkers and cofounders at companies on How's Work? ( Spotify | Apple).

• Boundary Setting. DBT and Me. (2022).  

• The Mel Robbins Podcast episode "How to Speak Up for Yourself: Simple Strategies for Being Heard."  On how to set boundaries in friendships, handle criticism, starting hard conversations and dealing with "difficult people."   

• Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch - Apple 

• A Slight Change of Plans by Maya Shankar.  

Cognitive Scientist discusses human behavior, relationships, mental health and how science informs social interactions, decision making and emotions. - Apple | Spotify  

The Science of Making (and Keeping) Friends. (Apr. 10, 2023). Apple | Spotify 

Books

• Levine, A. & Heller, R. (2012). Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep Love (January 5, 2012) - Amazon

• Gottman, J. & Silver, N. (2015). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. - Amazon link 

• Johnson, S. (2008). Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. - Amazon Link 

• Nedra Glover Tawwab:  

  • • Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A guide to reclaiming yourself (March 16, 2021), TarcherPerigee. Amazon  | Author's Instagram  

    • Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships (Feb. 28, 2023), TarcherPerigee. 

5 Key Ideas (Audio by author) | Amazon Link | Key Tips in The New York Times (March 8, 2023). 

• Behrendt, G. & Ruotola-Behrendt, A. (2005). It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy. - Amazon  

• Gottlieb, Lori. (2010). Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. - Amazon 

• The ADHD Effect on Marriage (2010). by Melissa Orlov. ADHDMarriage.com 

• ADHD & Us: A Couple's Guide to Loving and Living With Adult ADHD (November 17, 2020) by Anita Robertson, LCSW. - Amazon 

Open Relationships

• Polyamory UK - UK-based website with resources, articles, books, etc.

• MultiAmory - Website with a podcast, book, coaching, workbook, and more.

Podcasts:

• Polyamory Weekly - Spotify | Apple

• MultiAmory (see above for general website & other resources) - episode on "Polyamory: The Most Common Questions." 

General

• • TwoOfUs.org 

  • National Healthy Marriage Resource Center - link 

  • The Marriage Minute is an email newsletter from The Gottman Institute.  

  • #FOMO: How Social Media Affects our Social Lives and Self-Images from One Mind PsyberGuide's blog. 

Self-Quizzes

• • Mojo Upgrade – Interactive Sex Questionnaire for Couples

  • The 5 Love Languages Quiz

  • Attachment Style Quiz from The Attachment Project